You can’t help but believe this common body image myth. Thoughts and assumptions are very weird things, and I want to talk about a few right now.
Have you heard of cognitive biases?
Well, a man named Charlie Munger, partner to Warren Buffet at Berkshire Hathaway, introduced 25 cognitive biases in his talk, “The Psychology of Human Misjudgment.”
Essentially, your brain is ruining your life. Some instincts we needed back in the cave man days haven’t evolved to fit our current level of civilization.
One example of these biases is the influence from mere association tendency. It’s where you see one thing in close proximity with another and assume they’re correlated.
The original reason we needed this was to find good sources of food and avoid sickness. This instinct was very helpful and accurate at one time, but not anymore.
It’s why commercials show beautiful women using a certain brand of moisturizer.
Your brain subconsciously associates that moisturizer with being beautiful and you buy it. This is the foundation for the body image myth I’m talking about today. It’s more of an assumption you make about the attractive people you want to be like.
Why this assumption is holding you back – 1:22
How being attractive can actually backfire – 5:08
Hearing this kind of thing too much makes you believe it – 9:26
There are attractive things about you, here are some examples – 13:10
Be careful what you wish for, seriously it’s true. There’s another saying that goes, “you can have anything you want in life, as long as you’re willing to sacrifice everything to have it.”
So remember, when you’re chasing this idea of what you want to look like, you might lose everything you love along the way. You might lose yourself, your friends, or the person you truly love.
Don’t buy into the myth that everything you see on TV, Instagram, and Facebook is real. It’s not. Being better looking won’t make you happier. Sometimes, it actually makes you feel worse because you feel like it’s “not you” or you’re tricking people into liking you.
Change starts with addressing the reasons why you want things to change. If you want to like yourself more, changing the way you look isn’t the first step.
Changing the way you think about yourself is the first step. As a body confidence coach, I help women at war with their body who need more personalized attention than what you can find in a “self-help” book or podcast series.
Maybe you’re looking for a 100% judgement free, supportive space where you feel safe admitting the mean things you tell yourself all day long. I can help uncover WHY you constantly judge yourself more harshly than anyone else on the planet.
There are 4 phases of my personalized coaching series, the first being the Discover Phase. Click here and you can apply for a free Discover Phase coaching call with me. If you feel like this, and you’re always telling yourself “if I looked better, I’d be happier” I can help you.
Rebekah Buege is a body confidence coach helping strong women process critical thoughts and heal insecurities.
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