When you're an attractive woman, people only see you as beautiful. Since I was 14 the majority of compliments and recognition I got from people was based on the way I looked. So, naturally I started building my self worth and identity around my beauty. I believed the more others found me attractive, the more valuable I was. This makes you super insecure, btw, because you're constantly wondering how you measure up against other women, people's expectations, and society's changing standards.
so, what changed?
After leaving a toxic relationship, I realized no matter how "perfect" I was - I was never going to meet everyone's expectations, because beauty, success, and even happiness is subjective. So instead of trying to meet other people's expectations of me, or even my own, I turned to meet the standards my Creator has for me.
The bible says I am fearfully and wonderfully made, in the image of God. How can I hate, criticize, or not love things about a body made in His image? I found the truth God shares about my worth, beauty, and value as one of His children - and found peace, joy, and unshakable confidence in that.