Changing Your Body Doesn’t Change Who You Are

My best friend Ali has a son named George (I know, it’s adorable) and sometimes George gets upset when we’re shopping. He really wants a toy. He wants to look at toys, buy toys, play with toys…he really likes cars and trucks.

But Ali and I have been around the block once or twice with George, and when he starts whining for toys the real reason he gets so upset when we say “no” is because he’s tired and needs to take a nap.

As adults, we don’t have people to figure out what’s really going on, the real reason we’re acting a certain way. So we need to figure it out for ourselves.

When it comes to how we feel about our bodies, you and I have a laundry list of things we’d like to see changed. Maybe it’s losing weight. It might be getting a nose job or some other kind of plastic “reconstructive” surgery. Do people call it plastic surgery anymore? I don’t know. But you get my point.

On this episode, you’ll discover how you can get to the root of your insecurities about your body and understand how changing your body isn’t what you want. You’ll understand how to solve what’s going on internally.

Asking “why”

I have a little saying, “if you ask why 3 times, you’ll usually get the truth” and this is a great way to uncover what’s really going on in your head. You might be thinking you need to change something about your body in order to be happy, but all that’s gonna do is change how your body looks.

It’s up to you to decide whether or not you like yourself, regardless of how “yourself” looks.

Appreciating Your Capabilities

Your body is working all day, just like you are. So if you give your body opportunities to show off what its capable of, there’s a good chance you’ll start appreciating your body…instead of hating on it.

What’s something you’ve told yourself you could “never” do? The human body is amazing and very responsive to its environment. I bet if you give yourself enough time and have patience, your body can be capable of anything you’d like.

You’re All You’ve Got

When it’s all said and done, the only person you have to live with is you. At the end of the day, you’re coming home to yourself and your body will always be there.

Find just one thing you like about your body right now. One thing you’re proud of or you admire. If you’re having trouble thinking of something, ask someone you trust and care about to help you. It’s not about what’s on the outside, but there definitely are things to love about yourself exactly the way you are.


November 13, 2017


Rebekah Buege is a body confidence coach helping strong women process critical thoughts and heal insecurities.

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