63 | How to Create Health in the Life You’re Already Living with Monica Mo

It’s possible to create health in your life without having an all or nothing mentality.

So many “body rules” are based on conflicting messages.

If you eat a salad, people make fun of you, but if you eat a burger and fries you might feel self conscious for eating “unhealthy” food.

You really can’t win when you’re trying to satisfy the expectations of other people.

But a lot of times these outside expectations creep into your own mind.

You start questioning what you should and shouldn’t be eating, doing, and focusing on in order to create a healthy life.

I believe you can have anything you want in life, but you have to be willing to sacrifice everything else to have it.

For so many women, we’re conditioned to believe we need to devote our lives to keeping our bodies thin and sexy.

But is that something you actually care about?

Are you willing to sacrifice everything to have it? I’m certainly not.

Which is why I’m super excited to announce Monica Mo, the founder of Wellseek.co to the show today.

She brings such a great perspective to health and wellness that’s based on balance.

Yes, it’s actually okay to enjoy your life while being healthy – that’s the whole point.

How to Use the Tombstone Test to Create Health in Your Life

At the end of your life, what do you want to look back and see?

I refer to this as the “tombstone test” and it helps me stay on track with my health goals.

Yes, I go down the rabbit hole of thinking, “maybe I should try to get abs,” now and then.

But do I want to look back on my life and see hours in the gym and skimping on meals just to say, “look at my 6-pack”

Nope, I don’t.

If it’s not something that’s gonna help me have a really cool obituary and a standing-room-only funeral, it’s a no from me.

Why Rigidity Leads to Guilt & Shame

Strict food rules mean you’re harder on yourself when you slip up.

If you get rid of the rules altogether, it’s impossible to fail! Genius, I know.

Instead of having rigid rules around your body and food, Monica suggests bringing balance and understanding to your definition of health.

Technically, any strict, perfectionistic rule following is a sign of an eating disorder.

So, healthy eating is really letting your body and instincts guide your choices.

When you can connect with what your body really needs, you finally have a source you can trust.

Why Your Body is the Ultimate Guide to Your Health

Everyone and everything giving you health advice is trying to make money off your choices, except your body.

Your body doesn’t earn a commission when you choose to drink herbal tea or try Whole 30.

So it’s quite honestly the most reliable source for health information.

It’s designed to keep you healthy and alive – that’s the purpose of your body.

We’ve been taught to ignore so many of our instincts, we don’t even know when we’re hungry or full anymore.

You might be afraid if you “gave in” to your body’s instincts you would gain a bunch of weight and “let yourself go”

This is one of the worst lies of the diet industry.

When you actually listen to your body’s instincts, you can heal yourself from all the outside pressures and expectations you’re putting on yourself.

Your body wants you to move in a healthy way and fuel in a healthy way.

It also wants you to enjoy yourself while you’re eating, moving, and living.

You can’t prioritize your physical health at the expense of your mental health.

That’s not a balanced way to live.


January 31, 2019


Rebekah Buege is a body confidence coach helping strong women process critical thoughts and heal insecurities.

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