62 | Why ‘Do What Makes You Happy’ is Terrible Advice You Should Ignore

‘Do what makes you happy’ is really lazy advice.

Happiness isn’t a goal you should be working towards.

It’s a fleeting feeling that comes and goes throughout the day.

There’s a difference between doing what makes you happy and doing what makes you feel good.

It’s the difference between longterm and short term satisfaction.

Happiness is short term and feeling good is longterm – at least that’s how I see it.

Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life.

What does it mean to feel good?

In order to find out what makes you feel good, you need to start listening to yourself.

When you get honest about what makes your body feel good, it’s

Instead of asking yourself, “does this make me happy?” ask yourself, “what’s going to make me feel good 6 months from now?”

Just because something makes you happy right now doesn’t mean it’s good for you.

So often we put off doing the hard thing because it’s easier not to.

Life is never going to be easy, so you might as well make the decisions that support you in the longterm.

The only way to know what’s going to make you happy, you need to look into who you are and listen to what your body is trying to tell you.

You have to start by trusting that your body knows what’s best for you.

The reality of self care & investing

True self care involves making hard decisions that are better for you in the long run.

Things like making sure you’re being responsible with your time, money, energy, and health.

That’s true self care: doing something now that helps you life a healthier life down the road.

Life gets easier when you have enough money to pay your bills.

You’re healthier when you’re listening to your body and what it needs, whether it’s movement or nourishment.

Doing small things each day add up to a more confident life.

Your relationship with yourself

The biggest roadblock to feeling good longterm is your relationship with yourself.

Starting with your mindset and how you feel about yourself gives you the foundation to view everything else with a clear lens.

When you change the way you think about who you are, it changes the way you think about everything else, too.

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January 24, 2019


Rebekah Buege is a body confidence coach helping strong women process critical thoughts and heal insecurities.

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