How Do I Stop Myself From Obsessing Over Negative Thoughts?

I struggle with obsessing over negative thoughts.

Everyone does.

You’re probably worried about things that happened in the past or things that might happen in the future.

Which one do you gravitate towards?

I worry about the future more than I dwell on the past.

Everything you’re worried about right now is an earthly thing.

Whether it’s your body, your job, or the fact you were criticizing yourself – you’re obsessing over earthly things.

And what does the truth say about this?

Colossians 3

Ask for positive thoughts to help you stop obsessing over negative thoughts

When you’re stuck in a pattern of negativity, focusing on taking it away isn’t always the best approach.

Because you’re still left focusing on the bad things you don’t want.

So try asking God to bring you good things.

Think of the opposite of what’s happening and focus on that.

If you’re feeling anxious, ask for peace.

If you’re feeling angry, ask for ways to show love.

Both of these good things are fruits of the spirit.

That’s always my favorite place to start when I don’t know what I need.

I run down a list of the fruits of the spirit and ask myself what’s missing, then pray for that.

Interpret negative thoughts from the analytical part of your brain

Not all messages are interpreted equally.

Your thoughts are given more trust and power than external messages.

Different parts of your brain interpret the messages coming to you through sights, sound, and touch.

You’re more rational and analytical when you’re receiving messages from other people.

Think about those times you tell your friend about something and the second it leaves your mouth you realize how crazy you were being.


So you can do this without talking to a friend or therapist.

Getting input from other people is very helpful in certain scenarios, but it’s not always necessary.

That’s why journaling, talk therapy, and just acknowledging something exists is a big step in changing any behavior.

God doesn’t promise to take away your pain, but He does promise peace

Signing up for Christianity isn’t a get out of jail free card when you’re in trouble.

Asking for help doesn’t guarantee an immediate change of circumstances.

God doesn’t take you out of the storm, but He will give you peace in the midst of the storm.

He brings people and opportunities into your life to help you, but it’s not a guarantee that everything goes perfectly.

It’s okay that the pain is still there, because He is working in you and forming you through that hurt.

Struggles remind us how much we need Him.

The hurt gives us the opportunity to choose to rely on Him.

His plans are good, and if we trust in Him we will have peace even when things are hard.

His plan is to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you hope and a future.

That doesn’t say He’s going to give you fame, fortune, and a fancy car.

But He has a plan for your life that are good for His works.

Confidence comes from realizing you don’t have control and you won’t do it perfectly.

The only thing you can control in life is yourself.

Even that isn’t easy.

You have control over your emotions, thoughts, and actions.

Yes, sometimes you slip up and you don’t act in a very confident way.

Crazy thoughts still creep into your mind no matter how much Christ is alive within you.

You can’t control what thoughts enter your mind, but you can control how you handle the thoughts.

This is what I teach women in my private coaching.

Especially if you’re trying to stop obsessing over negative thoughts, it’s comforting to know you can deal with them in a healthy way.


March 21, 2019


Rebekah Buege is a body confidence coach helping strong women process critical thoughts and heal insecurities.

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