Blaming yourself for being cheated on is the default setting for most people.
I understand, it’s natural to criticize yourself and find flaws, especially in your appearance.
But when you really think about it, cheating is a result of selfishness.
Selfish people are only thinking of, wait for it, themselves.
So it really has nothing to do with YOU, and everything to do with THEM.
They did something bad. Chances are they would’ve cheated on anyone they’re dating, not just you.
It was a choice they made.
There was a reason for that choice, no matter what you look like or how you treated them.
I believe cheating goes so much deeper than just physical attraction.
How ridiculous would that be if someone actually threw away their relationship because they just wanted to get with someone who’s hotter than you?
Even if that IS the reason, it’s still about THEM being shallow and immature.
After finding out someone you trusted was unfaithful, it effects your body image and self confidence.
But adjusting your mindset away from, “they rejected me” and towards, “they’re selfishness exists outside of me” can be a tough one to make.
This episode of The Body Confidence Podcast covers a few mindset shifts you can make to help you really believe you’re not to blame for your (hopefully ex) partner’s infidelity.
It sounds cliche to say, “you’re better off without them.” even though it’s very true. Instead of leaving you with that advice, tell yourself, you’re better off finding someone who’s capable of loving you the way you love them.
Because it comes down to the type of love you give and receive.
You deserve to get the love you give, everyone does.
Rebekah Buege is a body confidence coach helping strong women process critical thoughts and heal insecurities.
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