Trusting in yourself is a big topic right now.
Thankfully, we are moving away from getting our identity from other people.
Our culture is focusing less on what other people think and more on finding approval within ourselves, which I think is great.
But there has to be another level to it when you’re truly searching for confidence that is unshakable.
Some people (like myself) have very high standards they hold themselves to.
My problem isn’t with meeting other people’s standards, it’s with trying to meet my own unrealistic standards.
Yes, they’ve been influenced by the world – but at the end of the day I think we can all be our own biggest critics.
So as a Christian, I struggled with this concept of self trust.
Is it biblical to spread this idea of trusting ourselves?
Should we even try?
I was reading the book of John and this stuck out to me.
“All this I have spoken while still with you. But the counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you.”
This seems to say to me, trusting yourself and trusting God can be the same thing.
When you have the Holy Spirit living in you, there will be things coming from God that seem to originate within yourself.
Your intuition can be coming from God.
It doesn’t have to be one or the other.
Self trust is actually reinforced from this part of the bible.
As long as you acknowledge what’s really going on is the Holy Spirit working in you, then that slight distinction is understood.
Of course, this doesn’t mean anything you think is coming from God and you should act on it.
The things that tell you something that’s actively against God’s word are from the enemy.
Those are lies.
The thoughts that tell you you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy or beautiful.
Those are lies from the enemy and the only way to know what’s true from God and what’s not is by reading His word.
Otherwise the enemy will take this opportunity to deceive you and make you doubt what God is telling you.
Sometimes we assume that something that’s coming from us must not be from God.
But literally, the bible is saying that’s not true.
If the Holy Spirit is living in you, of course there will be times God is speaking to you through that.
He’s living in you, you don’t have to go ask your friends or a priest or anyone.
Self trust is huge when it comes to Christianity.
It can only be healthy when you’re active in God’s truth.
How do you start trusting yourself when the voice in your head is the most negative voice in your life?
For so many of us, this is the case.
You don’t know what’s true and what’s not.
But there is a source of truth that you can trust.
The first step of confidence is not self trust.
It’s actually figuring out what you’re telling yourself, what are you believing and living?
Then, you have to measure it against the truth and decide what to do with it.
Once you know what’s true and what’s not, you have to create a plan to practice that and live that in your life everyday.
Instead of struggling through this on your own, wouldn’t it be great if you could get a roadmap?
If you got an action plan to do this in order, the right way, so your effort isn’t wasted?
You feel like no matter what you try, things just stay the same OR get worse?
That’s because you’re trying to do this on your own.
Doing the steps in order matters, a lot.
Starting with self trust is a mistake, it won’t work.
You have to start before that because you need to start with knowing what’s true.
Eventually you can practice self trust and trusting in the Holy Spirit and knowing that voice.
Instead of wanting to see changes immediately, give yourself grace in the process.
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Rebekah Buege is a body confidence coach helping strong women process critical thoughts and heal insecurities.
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